aim: to avoid jinx myself whenever I’m discussing with someone
context: I’m really good at making myself look dumb unintentionally when discussing with strangers, and I need to fix this.
what makes good discussion

• relevance
  what to keep in mind
• balancing between output (babbling and asking) and listening
  • discussing with people != writing an article (yapping 500 words from a simple question, it’s not working like that!)
  • if you output too much it’s very prone to be irrelevant and out of touch
  • not everyone are your closed friends that you can read them like a book and can guess what they want to discuss.
• listen and asking too much.
  • 10/10 in some cases
  • 6/10 in most cases
  • 4/10: feels like I only take and not give

created on: Sun Jun 28 2026